Jeg skrev litt med Dörte, (fra the Forge-leiligheten), like etter at jeg fikk Facebook, (i 2008)

thanks for the friend request!

How are you these days?

How are you doing at work etc?

Are you in contact with anyone from Sunderland?

Thanks again!

Erik

Hey Erik,

I am fine, just search for a new job, last one was terrible ´cause the people were not nice to me.. they kicked me out a few week before trial period ended… apart from my bad colleges the Job was really cool but I had to much work for one person…

Aprt from Federica i tried ti contact over facebook and Julian from the other flat I have no contact to the others from Sunderland…

have a nice day…

so long…

bussi und baba –> like the people in munich say :))

Ok Dörte,

I’ll tell you if I hear of some jobs.

Maybe I can ask my cousin Rahel in Berlin.

You want to work as a journalist right?

Have you changed your hair? I thought you used to have curly hair, you look very nice now.

My cousin says they say ‘chosi’, or something, in Berlin.

But if I go to Munich, I’ll say bussi and baba.

In Liverpool they say ‘tara’, like in Sunderland, or bye.

Have a nice weekend!

Nice to hear from you, by the way, and good luck with the new job.

Erik

I think Bussi und Bab is more Vienna style but.. what ever it sounds sweet…

Well, I think I’ll stick to Norwegian then, and say hadetbra.

Then I know what I’m saying.

Cya then.

Erik

wier gets Ihr?

(was that right?).

I’m trying to find out a bit about things that have been going on etc.

Since I have been followed by some mafia etc., it seems from Norway etc.

Is it ok if I ask some maybe a bit personal questions about eg. you and Iwo in Sunderland?

I was just wondering what type of relationship you had, since Brusk told me that you only had a ‘sexual relationship’, but you had a normal relationship, didn’t you?

I don’t mean to be inpolite asking this, I only try to get a puzzle together about things I’m wondering about, like why did Nelufer and the other girl move out, Federica seems to think it’s to do with her, while you said that it was some problems with you people from Germany in the flat.

Sorry if I’m asking many questions, I’m trying to understand what went on, so it’s not because I mean to be inpolite or anything!

Hope this is alright!

Erik

Hi Dörte,

this was so fun that I think I have to post it on my blog.

Hope that’s alright.

The reason I was wondering about the relationship between you and Iwo, was because I remember from the first one or two days in Sunderland.

Then Iwo explained what he studied etc, since I think we were the first two who moved in there.

And then we were partying, the day you moved in, I think.

And then, late in the night, then you and Iwo were alone I think.

And then I asked Iwo the day after, if you were his girlfriend then.

And he didn’t answer.

I said I thought we were friends, me and Iwo, and that this was why I was asking.

And you were always sitting in the lounge, with your laptop.

And Iwo, was also sitting there all the time.

And you made food for both of you, and your room, was used as your bedroom, and Iwos room was used as his study-room/office.

And when I went to the lounge/kitchen, to make food, then Iwo always asked you, if you were ‘frisky’, which you often were, I seem to remember.

Weren’t you allowed to be in your room then, since you were sitting in the lounge all the time?

I thought you were like a married couple almost, so I got a bit surprised, when Brusk said that you only had a sexual relationship.

And since we lived in the same flat for a lot of months, I got a bit curious about this, since we were talking a bit and we were like friends, at least I thought, the ones who were living in the flat, after Nelufer and the other German girl, the one with the red hair I think she had, moved.

So, when brusk said this, then I thought that maybe something had been going on in the flat, that I didn’t understand about.

Because I remember I was wondering, when you and Iwo became a pair, because it happend so fast, late on night I think it was, and then you were like a married couple, redecorating your rooms, so that your room was the bedroom, and then you always sat in the lounge in the days, and you made a lot of food, which I remember you were very good at.

And I think it was maybe a bit strange, that Iwo would ask you all the time, in the lounge, when I was there to make food, if you were ‘frisky’.

You had blond curly hair, when you lived there, didn’t you?

Like not real curls, but made at the hairdresser, or something?

Iwo, I remember had dark hair, wasn’t that tall as you, I think.

Was it like this, that he didn’t turn you on then, but it was like an arrangement, so that you got ‘frisky’, like you always said, you and Iwo, and then your sex-life was working again, like I remember Iwo said, when I fixed your computer, that then he got his sex-life back again.

So when Brusk said this, that you only had a sexual relationship, then I didn’t really understand, what went on in the flat I had been living in for months, because, like I explained, I though you were a couple, like husband and wife, so this I didn’t really understand.

And when I was living there, and talking with you every day, and we acted like we were friends, then I thought I maybe should try to get to know what really went on there, since I was living there myself, I thought I should try to understand what went on.

If there eg. was anything ‘forced’ with this relationship?

I don’t know, but I just thought it was a bit strange.

Also that Rosario, the blond Spanish girl, moved in, a few days after you and Iwo became a couple, and I tried to speak to Iwo about this, just to try to understand what went on.

I just thought that I should maybe try to understand what went on in the flat, since I was living there.

So that’s why I’m asking all these strange questions.

Sorry if I’m inpolite about this, remember I’m from Norway, and we aren’t that good with manners etc, and don’t use plates and eat from the table like I told you.

Only jokeing.

But it was fun with the story about Nelufer and Federica.

So thanks very much for the answer!

Hope you don’t get angry since I’m asking so strange questions!

Erik

things between iwo and me were going on very fast you were right but we had a normal relationship like a couple you said too… maybe i missunderstood that fact before… thougt that you mean “just friends” relationship and than the other thing… but you havent think about it an longer its over… maybe i think you overtax yourself with this thinking over these things :))just put it away… makes things easier :))

Oh can you delete my lastname or my whole name in this blog-thing? its about google search you know.. if personal recruiter google my name they shouldnt find my name in a discussion about sexual relationships… please…

Hi Dörte,

I don’t think the things that happened in Sunderland, and what you are saying now adds up.

So I think I have to think a bit more about this, before I decide what to do.

Hope this is alright!

Erik

what do you want to do? maybe i havent understand you in the right way… i am a little bit confused… iwo and me were a couple i think he dont give you an answer when you asked him because for him this was only a sexual thing… you know… he never loved me… and he told me this all the time… but i thaught that i could change his mind… when we were back in germany he

brake the relationship because he faund another gilr he liked more than me… could younow understand why i do not like to speak about this relationship between me and him? for the time was very hard… and i dont want to remenber… i like to speak with you after this time because i think we are friends… but in some ways i think i dont understand you….

seeing your face on my facebook-page makes me think a bit of Sunderland again, so I was just wondering about some questions again.

Like, you live in Munich, right?

But is there were your family is from again, I seem to remeber that you were studying in the east of Germany, on the same uni as the German student living Brusk and them in the neighbour flat, Julian, before you went to Sunderland?

And Munich, is in Bavaria, right?

This made me remember, that Iwo, who you were in a relationship with, and also lived in our flat, didn’t like Bavaria, for some reason to do with politics?

And Federica and Rosario, had a party in our flat in Sunderland, before Christmas, I think.

And then, you and Iwo, and Leyla, and your German friend, a girl I’ve forgotten the name of, just sat in Iwo’s room.

I admit I sat there myself, since you were sitting there.

But you didn’t want to go to the lounge, that was packed with a lot of people, for some reason, you only wanted to sit in Iwo’s room?

And I remembemer I managed to trick a German girl, at the party, to my room, to look at the northern light on a picture on my computer etc, but what was this girls name again?

I need to start eating some more vitamins, so that I maybe manage to remember things like this myself, but it would be very fine, if you think you could answer me about anything of this.

Thanks in advance for the help!

Erik

would you please be so nice to delete our Conversation about Sunderland from your blog? I decided that these things are to personal so I don’t want it readable for the whole world… thx

Hi Dörte,

what was this with, that you wanted to sit in my bed, and explained that you thought it was nice and comfertable etc, some days before Iwo went back to Germany?

And then you wanted to have a sigarette with me, etc, on your last day there.

What was this all about?

Weren’t you together with Iwo then?

Why did Brusk say that you had a sexual relationship?

Why did Iwo always ask you if you were ‘frisky’ when I went to the lounge to make some food etc.

Why did Iwo say, that his sexlife was saved, when I fixed your laptop?

I think there quite many strange things, in connection with this, so from these things, I suspect that I’m a bit involved myself here, so until I’ve got some answers to these things, then I think I’ll let the blog-posts stay.

At least till I know more about what has been going on.

And I remember you also asked me there, in Sunderland, if I wanted to borrow a porn-movie, that you had downloaded.

Iwo talked about something with a lot of girls in, that lived in the same house etc.

But I didn’t think I could sit and watch porn, by my desk, in the flat, when you and Iwo and Federica and Rosario, lived there etc.

And my room was next to the lounge, not like your rooms wich were the rooms that were furthermost away from the lounge there.

So I thought it was a bit many strange things, and you didn’t want to speak with me about this on the phone, you were only complaining, that you were going to town in ten minutes, even you posted cute pictures of cats, and girlfriend music-videoes, and wanted to be my friend on Facebook, and sent ‘have a nice day’-messages etc.

And then you didn’t want to talk on the phone.

I think this is a bit strange.

So I think the messages stays, untill I know more about what’s going on.

Hope this is alright!

Yours sincerely,

Erik Ribsskog

Erik,

would you please stop constructing such stories? Do you have any problems? My patience is over now, i I only wanted to be nice and you are constructing strange things all the time wich is all about that other people want harm or deceive you. I would never do this and have never done things like this. So please stop doing this! I did not want to talk with you on phone because i did not understand your speech and because i was tired of you and your theories of things in sunderland happened. but I am to polite saying this loud so i told you that i have no time. If you are not able to understand that is you who creates these horrible stories about , I dont want you to contact me again.. i never had any interests in you i only want being a friend please stop imputing me other things.

I have enough problems by myself in this moment… being unemployed is not very funny you know? I have to think about paying my food every week becaause i have no money. This is much more important than thinking about your imaginations. I dont have time to correct all your interpretations of things happened.

I dont understand you, why you alway want to impute bad things to me? Have i done something bad to you?

And it’s very unfair from you to blackmail me with the deletion of our conversation in your blog.

Like i remember i was never bad to you so explain why you are doing this to me?

i am torn between being angry and being sad…. i only wanted to renew a friendship closed some years ago (so i thought) and now i have to see that this friend is contructing fairy tales and imputing me bad things…. i am really disappointed.

things happened around you where not strange you made it strange in you imagination……

I am very sad that you are so bad to me because i never have done anything bad to you…. i cant understand your behavior

i only want you to delete the conversation because i have to look for a new job so i can pay my food and dont have to starve and if a person googles me he will find this conversation and every other person will find it to …no job redruiter will give me a job by reading this…. furthermore is publishing this conversation in internet hurting my privacy…. so you want to hurt me with this?

so you understand now ?

Hi,

I’m not constructing anything at all.

How about the cute cats you sent to my Facebook-page, and the ‘girlfriend’ musicvideo, and the ‘Have a nice day’-message.

Are those constructions as well?

It looks like you wanted to give the impression that you were my girlfriend, or something, for some phoney reason?

I’m not accepting to be treated with being sent very friendly messages, for noe reason, and then not wanting to speak with me on the phone.

And this on top of the stuff that happened in Sunderland.

You were keeping track of the things I was doing there, I remember.

I ordered a lot of books etc., from Norway, and then I overheard that you told someone that you had lost track of the stuff.

You also made a point of once, that I had two different colours of facial-hair, in Sunderland.

So, with all the strange things that has been going on, I think I’ll keep the conversations etc., and this is no blackmail, this is because I suspect that you have been doing some phoney stuff, on Facebook and in Sunderland.

So please stop sending me any more messages, I’ll block you now.

And please remember that we are adult people, who are responsible for our actions.

You can’t just pretend that what you have done, haven’t happend, and then expect people to just forget about it.

Hope this is alright!

Yours sincerely,

Erik Ribsskog